Living Your Most Expansive Life
Living your most expansive life certainly seems to be something that all of us on a journey of growth are striving to attain. We strive..and strive…and strive.
And then we strive, again; never seeming to cross the threshold into expansive living. Why is that? What are we doing that is holding us back from that attainment? This is a tough subject to deconstruct. If it was easy, we would all be doing it. Right?
Here is how it goes. We grew up being taught that our worth was connected to our achievement. So we spent our time pushing and pushing and pushing to achieve greater goals; whatever those goals were. We were taught that if we attain those goals we would be worthy…finally. Worthy of happiness, respect, success, #insertprize. And when we finally achieved those greater goals we waited for the “prize” to drop into our laps. And we waited…….. The by-product of this was we learned that it was not relevant that we enjoy the process along the way; and in fact if you did enjoy it you were not doing it correctly as you needed to pay your dues and you were not working hard enough if you weren't miserable. We began to equate being miserable with making choices that would get us to a place in life where we had earned our worthiness, i.e. Happiness, respect, success, #insertprize. This held us in an unbreakable loop of suffering trying to achieve an experience of something by making choices that felt painful, hard and out of alignment (even though we didn’t know that). So, what did we do? We worked harder and made more choices that we didn’t enjoy because “that is just the way it is done”. And, we continued to not reach the goal of living the life we are worthy of; an EXPANSIVE life.
Sound familiar? Work hard. Suffer. It will come in time but you have to sacrifice yourself to be worthy of “the good life”.
It. Was. All. A. Lie.
What if I offered you another way; a NEW perspective?
And what if it was simple?
First of all, what IS an expansive life? Well, you get to define the details of that but in general, it is living a life that feels like a “yes”. We don’t just step into that life. That life is built one “yes” at a time.
What does a “yes” FEEL like? It feels like joy, truth, knowing, PREFERENCE.
Living an expansive life is simply choosing in each NOW moment what the most exciting, satisfying, passionate thing from the options in front of you. Now, do it to the best of your ability and take it as far as you can then you choose again. Done.
That is it.
Now, you may be saying, “Wait, wait. You are telling me that if I have a choice between completing some work and lying down, I get to choose lying down if it is what I prefer?”
Here’s my answer.
Yes. If choosing to lie down is the most satisfying, exciting and passionate thing in front of you as options, choosing it will open you up to another set of options once you are complete with that. If you are never in a state of passion around any other option than lying down, then you do not have options in front of you that are serving you. Do you see that?
You simply choose the most expansive thing filled with passion and take it as far as you can and then choose again.
Wash. Rinse. Repeat.
What comes out of the laundry room of creation is a life that is built upon a system of choosing self-worth.
Are you willing to try?
Three Things to Know in This Month’s Energy
April brings us a deeply spiritually experiential month. There may be moments where you are experiencing new levels of connection within yourself leading to your experience of deep wisdom. This wisdom is engaging in order for you to step more fully into a higher version of yourself. The experiences coming forward will be big collectively. Connecting to your inner wisdom and ability to see truth will be your biggest flexes.
Four main energy events for April are the beginning of Mercury retrograde on 4/1, a peak ascension experience on 4/3, the total solar eclipse on 4/8 and the completion of Mercury Retrograde on 4/25.
We are beginning a triad of months (April, May, June) that will very much feel like a dream. Nothing will seem normal. Things will seem familiar but will feel different. A new experience of life is available and you are just dipping your toe into these waters. So, when things feel, appear and seem weird, know that you are safe.