Lisa Almquist

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Navigating Your Relationships When You Are Up-Leveling

So, you are on a journey.

You have been exploring who you are and what you want out of life. You are looking at what is holding you back. You are diving deeply into the essence of who you are. 

This work has been profound and so important to you. You are changing. You are seeing your limiting beliefs. You are becoming aware of the deeper meaning behind things that are triggering you. You are behaving differently.  The people in your life are seeing it. This is not always an easy or pleasant experience for them or for you.

There are a few things that I want to dive into when you are working on yourself, making great strides in living the life you want and the people in your life are witnessing your shift.

1 - This is triggering for them. They may be confused as to what is happening. If unhealed scripts are running their reaction, they will most likely start projecting their pain to you. You will be a trigger for them as you step into healing. Remember, their triggers are their opportunity to start a healing journey of their own. Your only job is to be compassionate and trust that everyone is on a path of expansion that is as unique to them as their DNA.

2 - Notice when your significant others projection is triggering YOU! This is a huge opportunity to up-level even further.  It is sort of ironic. The trigger of your up-leveling will actually create more of it as you step into compassion and non-judgement and see the gift in the clarity of what is coming forward.

3 - Boundaries are key.  You are in a fledgling stage of a new normal that is triggering projection. If this is not acceptable to others in your life, you may need to get clear on how you allow them to connect with you. Remembering that it is always from a place of love. 

4 - Understand that trust of self and self-love will be key to staying the course. When someone comes to you concerned that you are “different”, try saying something like this while connecting with them straight in the eyes. “I hear you and I want to thank you for loving me so much that you are concerned. I want to let you know that I love and trust myself to know that I am exactly where I need to be.”

5 - This journey can at times feel lonely and isolating. Your significant others don’t understand you. You may not feel like spending time with them in the same way that you used to. Things that you used to enjoy, no longer interest you or may outright repel you. Remember to be gentle with yourself here. Compassion is key.

6 - You don’t need to bring them into your personal journey. Yes, even our partner. Everyone has their own journey of expansion. There is no need for them to be on yours. When you release the attachment to them joining you and understand that there is nothing that you need to do or get them to “fix”, you can relax.

 7 - Fear about outgrowing them WILL sneak in.  Be with it. Ask yourself what it is trying to bring to your attention. If you are afraid of growing because your relationships will change, step into that growth FULL FORCE. This kind of empowered, passionate-action is dripping with self-love.  We must love ourselves FIRST and then share our love and connect with the love of others from that place. 

8 - Look for places where you have what I call connecting threads; places where you are a similar vibration around something.  Use those as a breeding ground for more understanding around your journey.

9 - Remember that growing and changing does not require that you go into different directions. This is a time for conscious communication. Enroll them in the experience they are looking for in your relationship. If that is not possible, due to their refusal to allow your growth, there is a time to look at disconnection, starting from a temporary place, and then regrouping after some time has passed. 

10 - Allow everyone to be exactly where they are. When you do this and trust in yourself and that the Universe is working for you, you can step fully into the Flow…


Trust in your knowing.

You are so loved.